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Lakshman Abeyagunawardene passes away
Mahendra "Speedy" Gonsalkorale
I just received the sad news from Pram in this text message:-
"Dear friends, our dearly beloved colleague Lucky Abeygunawardene passed away peacefully this afternoon surrounded by his family
His remains will lie at the Respect Home tomorrow from 6.00pm to 9.00pm & again from the morning of the 16th December. Cremation at the General Cemetery Kanatte at 10.30am. Pansakula to be offered at 2 pm and final rites with cremation, Borella New Cemetery at 4pm
May his soul rest in peace".
I shall publish more details and some recollections from friends. Please send me anything about Lucky you want to be included.
The photo was taken at Lucky's house when I met him in March this year.
ND summed him up beautifully- see below.
“Lakshman is a quiet man, yet gregarious, always charming. He is well known for his intense loyalty to his friends. His anecdotes, wonderful sense of humour and that ‘wicked’ grin are an integral part his charm. I remember from long ago his courtesy and kind ways which he has carried through all his life. I am greatly privileged to have met him in my life’s journey.”
Lucky was admitted as a Fellow of the College of Community Physicians of Sri Lanka at the Inauguration of its Annual Scientific Sessions on Thursday, 20th September 2012, in recognition of services rendered to Public Health/Community Medicine.
This citation, read by Dr. Santhushya Fernando, is a fitting initial tribute to a man who achieved so much but always remained humble. He started the Blog and valued friendship and lasting memories of our time together as batch mates. I shall miss him, and his memory shall always live deep within me.
Tributes to Lucky
(1) This was posted in the Blog on May 2nd, 2022.
Lakshman Dias Abeygunawardene – Community Physician par
excellence
By Dr Nihal D Amerasekera
“Lakshman is a quiet man, yet gregarious, always charming. He is well known for his intense loyalty to his friends. His anecdotes, wonderful sense of humour and that ‘wicked’ grin are an integral part his charm. I remember from long ago his courtesy and kind ways which he has carried through all his life. I am greatly privileged to have met him in my life’s journey.”
Lakshman (L.N.D) Abeygunawardene had his education at Ananda
College Colombo.
I first met Lakshman in the “Block” when we were freshers at
the Faculty of Medicine in Colombo in 1962. Then we both lived in Nugegoda.
There were times he gave me a lift to the faculty in his Honda 50 motor-cycle.
Our surnames being at the beginning of the alphabet we sat near to each other
at lectures, walked the long corridors of the General Hospital together and
worked in the same wards. Friendship blossomed as we did most of the demanding
tasks together for the full five years.
The examinations in the faculty were many and each one of
them challenging in the extreme. Therewas a need to commit vast amounts of
facts to memory. Lakshman had a most remarkable memory and the ability to
recall in such great detail. He spent less time studying than many of my mates
in the year but sailed through the years with ease. On many occasions, he gave
me the impression Lakshman merely wanted to pass the examinations with minimum
effort while enjoying student life. I have no doubt that he could have been in
the top tier in the order of merit if he just made the effort. Lakshman was
intelligent and had the wonderful ability to think fast and think rationally
while on his feet. This was a great gift which he used to good effect in later
life and career.
Lakshman loved faculty life and enjoyed it to the full, more
than most. He was a fine billiards player. Taking part in the faculty
competitions he fared very well indeed becoming one of the top players. Carrom
was his forte. Lakshman was one of the best players of the game and won the
faculty tournament a couple of times. He was a great follower of the University
cricket team and was ever present at the Sara Trophy games lending his support.
Watching Rugby was another of his passions and never missed an important club
game. He was always there for the Colours Night and Block Night dances at the
University’s King George’s Hall, jiving the night away. Ever-present at the
evening booze-ups in the faculty common room, Lakshman was there to take me
home after the event. Although he enjoyed a drink Lakshman never exceeded the
sensible limits he set for himself. He never smoked. With him good sense always
prevailed.
I remember he was always polite and had the great ability to
be calm, discreet and diplomatic. He had the skill to hide his anger so very
well. Beneath his gentle demeanour, Lakshman has a steely core. He is
intelligent and astute and played his cards close to his chest. Lakshman was
never in a hurry to make important decisions which he did after careful
thought. This stood him in good stead throughout his career and in his life.
I recall with nostalgia a trip we made with Sanath de Tissera, Bernard Randeniya and Lakshman Jayasinghe (who joined us on the spur of the moment, at the Fort Railway Station). We were off on a trip to Kandy. Sanath arranged for us to stay in a house on a hill in Watapuluwa, overlooking the Mahaweli river. We pounded the streets of Kandy during the day and enjoyed a chat and a drink in the evenings by the river. This was a memorable holiday which brought us closer together.
After the final year examination came the great dispersal. We all went our separate ways.
Following his Internship at Colombo South General Hospital,
he worked in a clinical field for two years. He then set his eyes on a career
in public health. Lakshman began his journey into public health as a Medical
Officer of Health at Matara in 1970. That was also a momentous year for
Lakshman when he married Mangala. I made
an official trip to Matara while working at the Central Blood Bank in
Colombo. It brought me great joy to meet
my old pal again. I was entertained most lavishly by Lakshman and Mangala in a
grand and elegant house at Brown’s Hill in Matara.
Remaining in the Public Health Services, he joined the
Health Education Bureau (HEB) of the Ministry of Health. In March 1974, Lakshman was awarded a World
Health Organization (WHO) Fellowship and proceeded to the USA. Specialising in
public health and health education, in 1975, he obtained the Master’s degree in
Public Health (MPH) from the University of California, Berkeley, USA. On his
return to Sri Lanka, Lakshman pursued his keen interest in serving the HEB as a
Health Education Specialist. In 1986, he received his certification as a
consultant in community medicine by the Post Graduate Institute of Medicine
(PGIM). Lakshman was conferred the prestigious Doctor of Medicine (MD) degree
in community medicine by the University of Colombo.
Having served the Government of Sri Lanka diligently for 23
years he took early retirement in 1990 and joined the United Nations Children’s
Fund (UNICEF). He has also served the World Health Organisation (WHO) and the
Commonwealth Secretariat of London working on consultant assignments in
Indonesia and Malaysia. In 1998, he took early retirement from UNICEF. Lakshman then emigrated to the United States
and served the South Carolina Department of Health and Environmental Control as
a Health Education Specialist for a further period of ten years. He finally
retired in December 2008 as a Consultant Community Physician in the USA.
Although South Carolina left a strong impression on Lakshman he had a deep
longing to return home to his roots.
For many years I lost contact with Lakshman. Marriage,
careers and caring for our children took precedence. On a brief visit home in
1998, I met up with Lakshman and the irrepressible J.C Fernando at the
Singhalese Sports Club which was a memorable event. We kept the spirit alive
bringing back a bit of that old faculty magic of long ago.
Lakshman initiated a Weblog (now also called a Blog),
specifically for the Colombo Medical Faculty entrants of 1962. The creation
helped to shape the way we communicate as a year group and became a forum for
conveying our skills, news, humour and friendship. This became an instant hit
with the batch and has been a friendly platform, riding the ether since 2011.
He had a pragmatic approach to its rules. Not wanting it to be an online
battleground, he discouraged and virtually excluded politics. As the manager of
the Blog he maintained its dignity and remained fair and impartial. His
willingness to listen to the feedback improved the Blog enormously. After many
years in the hot seat he has now passed on the onerous task of managing the
Blog to Mahendra Gonsalkorale.
On retirement Lakshman and Mangala returned to Sri Lanka and
made their home in Battaramulla. They now maintain a splendid house with a
delightful garden in the posh part of town. An utterly charming couple, they
became well known for their friendship and lavish hospitality. By his relaxed
style and affable manner, he made wonderful company. Their generosity was
extended to the many expatriate medics who returned home on their winter
getaway.
I recall Lakshman’s father was a regular contributor to the national newspapers. Lakshman continued this tradition by contributing articles of value to the daily papers mostly on topics in his field of expertise in healthcare. He has dipped deep into the archives of his memory to write a most readable, extensive and far-reaching memoir.
I never joined in the many Batch reunions in Sri Lanka and
never had the opportunity to meet Lakshman. He made a brief trip to the UK.
Although I hoped very much we could meet but that was not to be. I was in Sri
Lanka in 2012 and we were able to enjoy a meal together at the plush Indian
restaurant at the Cinnamon Grand in Colombo. In the relaxed ambience of its
dining hall we retraced our time together, reminisced and remembered mutual
friends. We did make up much for those lost years.
Lakshman is a quiet man, yet gregarious, always charming. He is well known for his intense loyalty to his friends. His anecdotes, wonderful sense of humour and that ‘wicked’ grin are an integral part his charm. I remember from long ago his courtesy and kind ways which he has carried through all his life. I am greatly privileged to have met him in my life’s journey. Lakshman and Mangala have a son and daughter and enjoy the love and affection of three grandchildren.
I wish them a long and happy retirement.
(2) From Pramilla Senanayake
Lucky was a dear friend and colleague. He really enjoyed keeping in touch with his "batch mates" Hence the birth of the blog. Lucky contributed frequently to the blog. Whenever overseas colleagues visited SL, Lucky & Mangala played hosts to them and produced some super lunches and dinners. Lucky & Mangala were a very devoted couple. She kept no stone unturned to ensure that Lucky got the best medical treatment and the best care at home.
I was frequently in touch with Mangala and got regular updates on Lucky's health & progress. I was delighted when Mangala joined us at the last "Forever 62 " get-together which was a high T at the Ahasa restaurant on the 27th floor of the new Ratnadipa Hotel.
Lucky loved Cricket, and so did I. We had many cricket-related discussions when time permitted
He was very close to his two children. Always looking forward to the visits of their daughter from the USA. His grandkids meant a lot to him, and he looked forward eagerly to their visits.
I am so pleased that Speedy will continue keeping the blog alive.
May Lucky's soul rest in peace.
(3) Mahendra "Speedy" Gonsalkorale (He always called me Speedy!)
Lucky was a true friend and a most sincere person. He felt very strongly about his duty to serve his Motherland, and I salute him for this. But he was magnanimous enough to recognise that returning to live and serve in Sri Lanka, as honourable as it is, is not the only way to do this.
I always made it a point to visit Lucky and Mangala when I visit Sri Lanka and the genuine welcome and expression of their pleasure to see me was very special.
This photo was taken early this year when Srianee, too, was visiting. The ever-generous and wonderful Pram was kind enough to pick me up from Nawala, take me there and drop me back.
My heartfelt condolences go to Mangala and their children.
I am proud of the fact that I was able to assist in adding many innovations to the blog from the early days, which he readily accepted. When he handed the reins to me, I was honoured. I am even more determined to maintain the blog, Lucky's Brainchild. May he, as a devout Buddhist, attain his ultimate goal of Nibbana
Mahen, thank you for responding so quickly after the sad news of Lucky's death to publish this tribute from 2012. I appreciated Lucky as a good friend who was always at the forefront in organizing our reunions. Whenever I landed in Colombo he and Mangala were quick to organize a gathering of friends. Mangala and Lucky enjoyed the company of their friends and frequently hosted us in their lovely home in Battaramulla. During the last few years, however, Lucky's failing health made it difficult for them to continue doing that. Lucky was a very humble person, and I realized that even more when I read the tribute above. I was only aware of a fraction of his professional accomplishments!!
ReplyDeleteAll his batch mates, who enjoy communicating with each other on this blog, will be eternally grateful to him for starting this. May he attain Eternal Peace. I send my heartfelt condolences to Mangala and the rest of his family. It was a privilege to be his friend. I will miss him immensely.
Lucky was a true friend and a most sincere person. He felt very strongly about his duty to serve his Motherland, and I salute him for this. But he was magnanimous enough to recognise that returning to live and serve in Sri Lanka, as honourable as it is, is not the only way to do this. My heartfelt condolences go to Mangala and their children. I am even more determined to maintain the blog which was as all of us know, Lucky's brainchild. May he as a devout BUddhist, attain his ultimate goal of Nibbana
ReplyDeleteThanks Mahen and Pram for keeping us informed.
ReplyDeleteSad. We owe him a great deal for keeping the batch in touch.
Anichchawata Sankhara- May he attain Nibbana.
My sincere condolences to all the family . 🙏
FROM DHUSHYANTHI VEDAVNAM
ReplyDeleteMahen thank you for informing us so promptly about the sad news of Lucky’s death.
I met Lucky at his home the last time I visited Srilanka. Mangala and Lucky were very hospitable and kind.
Thanks to Lucky for starting the blog and also including the spouses of all his departed colleagues. Today we are able to keep in touch with you all via the blog.
My son too was able to meet Lucky when he visited Srilanka.
My heartfelt condolences to his dear wife Mangala and his two children. May he attain Nibbana.
Dhushy
From Chira
ReplyDeleteLucky's passing away, very sad indeed.
We should be proud of Lucky's Professional achievements.
As batchmates we all should be thankful to Lucky for creating our batch Blog in 2011.
This has brought our batchmates together. We are able to communicate with each other and to be informed about the demise of our batchmates.
We are happy that Mahendra is keeping our batch Blog alive.
My deepest sympathies to Mangala and children.
May he attain the supreme bliss of Nirvana.
Chira
In my mind, amongst a host of pleasant memories regarding Lucky. the most important memory is that he was the creator of our Blog.
ReplyDeleteMay he attain the Supreme Bliss of Nirvana!
FROM RAJAN (PATAS)
ReplyDeleteQuite saddened to hear of the passing of Lucky. I have fond memories of him in our Medical School days and his visit to my home and tasty meal at his home. Pram please convey my sympathies and heartfelt condolences to Mangala.
Rajan
SWYRIE
ReplyDeleteSo sad to hear of Lucky’s passing. I got to know Lucky really well when he and I joined up to organize many a batch reunion. He was always there to help and advise. As a batch we will really miss him. May he attain the supreme bliss of Nirvana.
FROM SURI
ReplyDeleteSo very sad to learn of Lucky's demise.
He was one of the first boys I got to know in our batch. He had worked with my older brother at BOC while waiting to enter Medical College. Aiya told me that Lucky was a really decent chap . So I was very happy when he introduced himself to me. My brother's evaluation of him was spot on . I found Lucky to be gentle and good natured, with a quiet sense of humour. Never found him to be unfair or mean. He was never proud or boastful of his many achievements.
I remember how I spotted him hovering in the Operating Theatre lobby at SJGH on a Tuesday morning and asked him why he was there . He said that Mangala was due for a Thyroidectomy by Dr Yoheswaran. I actually scolded him for not letting me know as it's my list. Lucky said he didn't want to trouble me !!! Yoga was a bit reluctant to go ahead with the surgery as there was a retrosternal extension which may require a sternal split . I told him that Dr Panna BJ Gunaratne was also in the OT and we can ask for help if needed. Thank God all went well.
Lucky was the first batch mate I contacted when I felt the urge to organise a batch reunion way back in 1988. Together with JC, Sura and Ganesh we were able to have a wonderful reunion at the Holiday Inn. He was enthusiastically involved in organising every batch reunion in Sri Lanka since then and we all owe him an enormous debt of gratitude for his brain child the Batch Blog.
You hold a special place in our hearts Lucky.
May you attain the supreme bliss of Nirvana.
Our heartfelt sympathies to Mangala and the family.
On hearing the sad news many memories flashed across my mind. Lucky was one of the first batchmates I met on entry to the Faculty. That was on the infamous registration day. We were both from Nugegoda and travelled back home together by the red Leyland bus. When I wrote my tribute to Lucky I sent him a copy to correct any errors and he gave me the thumbs up to publish in the Island newspaper and the Blog. I am so pleased he got to know what I think of him.
ReplyDeleteThe way he managed the blog showed his personality. He insisted on accuracy, honesty and dignity. No politics was also part of it. There were a few occasions we had to agree to disagree. He did so with his usual politeness without any rancour.
What saddened me most was my inability to see him when he was unwell and to communicate with him in his final year. Many of my emails and phone calls went unanswered as he was too ill. I recall with great fondness our last meal together at the Cinnamon Grand. That laughter and those reminiscences still swirl in my mind.
My deepest condolences to Mangala and the rest of the family
Lucky, you have gone before us on that journey we all must take.
I seek the wisdom of the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam :
Ah, make the most of what we yet may spend,
Before we too into the Dust Descend;
Dust into Dust, and under Dust, to lie,
Sans Wine, sans Song, sans Singer and—sans End!
May you attain the Ultimate Bliss of Nirvana
I would like to add a little bit more to my earlier comments. As Suri said "You hold a special place in our hearts, Lucky." And Nihal, I am sure that Lucky received all of your emails, because Mangala read them to him (bless her!). But towards the end of his life sitting down at a computer and typing were virtually impossible tasks, and phone calls were difficult. I am sure he greatly appreciated your tribute written in May, 2022.
ReplyDeleteFriendship was something that Lucky valued greatly and I think it pleased him immensely when the blog was active and buzzing with comments. We should honor him by keeping the blog alive, as long as Mahen is able to keep it going (Thank you, Mahen!)
Lucky, we will keep the fires of friendship burning on the blog as long as possible, in your memory. May you attain the Ultimate Bliss of Nirvana.