Friday, December 20, 2024

Dr Revelion (Revo) Drahaman passes away

Dr Revelion (Revo) Drahaman passes away

Nihal (ND) sent this note with the sad news of our much-loved batchmate passing away. May he rest in Peace. Insha Allah, Janaza leaves residence on Friday, 20 December 2024 at 15:00 (Asr prayers) from Merdeka, 23C, Guildford Crescent, Colombo 07, to Jawatte Muslim Burial Grounds.

Dr Revelion Drahaman – A Life Remembered.

Dr Nihal D Amarasekera

It is with deep sadness I heard the news of the passing of one of my closest friends, Revelion Drahaman.

When I think of Revelion Drahaman I am reminded of a famous line from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night: “Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” Revo seems to have had them all, and I’m happy to share these memories of him.

I first met Revo in 1965 when we were both students at the Faculty of Medicine in Colombo. It was the Swinging Sixties. Memories of amber nectar, tall tales and late nights whizz around my head as I recall those years of long ago. Friendships were made and firmed in the canteen and common room which was the social hub of the Faculty where laughter was endemic. Revo started his training with the first batch of students at Peradeniya and moved to Colombo on a transfer. As our surnames were nearer the beginning of the alphabet, we did most of the clinical work together. Our walks on the long corridors to every corner of the General Hospital in search of patients and knowledge is a memory that has stayed with me. This brought us closer and the friendship lasted a lifetime.

Our third year (1965) was a particularly difficult one with a plethora of subjects and much to read, retain and recall. Nalin Nanayakkara, Revo and I studied together. We met at each other’s houses. Revo’s parent’s house was in the affluent part of the city in the plush surroundings of Guilford Crescent, Cinnamon Gardens. This splendid house was called “Merdeka” (Freedom in Malay). On arrival we soon got stuck into our books. When Revo’s mother saw us immersed in our work, took pity on us and sent us cups of tea and cakes. Sometimes those study sessions ended in a delightful lunch. Revo was intelligent, focussed and hardworking.

But it was not all work. We occasionally snatched an evening break. As students, drinking and socialising took away the stresses and the strains of the heavy workload. There were those memorable and raucous evening booze-ups at the faculty’s Men’s Common Room. The glitz and the glamour of the Colours Night and Block Night Dances at King George’s Hall at Reid Avenue lit up our amorphous yearnings!!. On those evenings we twisted and jived the night away in gorgeous company. Revo was ever present and enjoyed himself thoroughly. During the years in the faculty, he had a rugged and reliable BSA Bantam motor bike. I was a regular pillion rider on this noisy beast weaving through the Colombo traffic.

He breezed through the difficult examinations at the faculty. Our undergraduate days ended in June 1967. As the sunset on our student days, there was a new dawn of a career in Medicine. Revo did his internship at the General Hospital Badulla and in 1968 he returned to the OPD at Ragama Hospital. We came together again when I moved back to Colombo in 1970. Then our uncertainties loomed large. It was a time of professional and personal insecurity. On an evening, the Health Department Sports Club at Castle Street was our oasis. He was genial company and we spoke about our lives, families and our academic progress. Revo wanted to specialise in ENT surgery. He was a good listener always calm and measured in his delivery. Whenever my life was in turmoil, Revo flattered me with his genuine care and interest in my well-being. I respected his opinion. He often advised patience. His contributions to any discussion were well thought-out and conveyed with much consideration. Revo was endowed with high moral standards. Although not overtly religious its important tenets were deeply rooted in his psyche. He stood up for his principles, steadfastly.

I left for England in 1974 and began work in London. By then Revo had proceeded with his surgical training with Dr Victor Benjamin, Consultant Surgeon and was successful in his preliminary FRCS examination in surgery. He too arrived in the UK in the early 1970’s. We met up again when he worked at the prestigious Whittington Hospital in London. This hospital is named after the famous 14th century traveller, Dick Whittington. As we both had busy jobs and difficult professional examinations to overcome our meetings were less frequent.

After completing the FRCS examination in surgery and the professional training, Revo returned to Sri Lanka in 1976. He was appointed as an ENT Surgeon, General Hospital Colombo. Before long, he formed an efficient and impressive ENT Unit that was the envy of his colleagues. He was an astute clinician, careful and meticulous. Revo was also a technically gifted surgeon. In practice he was a traditionalist and stood by the wisdom of Hippocrates, “primum non nocere” (first, do no harm). Revo was keen to share his surgical skills and enthusiasm and enjoyed teaching. He trained many young doctors to achieve great things in the speciality, at home and abroad. Revo Drahaman became a leading name in ENT surgery, much admired and well sought after. He had a busy and successful career at the National Hospital. He also worked in several Private Hospitals. Revo was a wonderful, wise and deeply perceptive man. He was modest about his own considerable achievements and scrupulously honest. With his fine bedside manner, professional competence and high ethical principles he handled patients, colleagues, nursing staff and trainees with skill, kindness and unfailing courtesy.

Despite his busy work schedule, he looked after the medical needs of my family in Colombo. He treated them with his usual respect, warmth and helpful kindness. Revo refused to accept any payment for this enormous favour. I was then a regular visitor to Sri Lanka. On those journeys we met up unfailingly and caught up with the news of mutual friends. We spoke about our careers and family and put the world to right. There was always time to reminisce and recall the good times gone. On those visits I remember with fondness his mischief and playfulness and those witty narratives delivered with waving arms and a broad smile, just as he did when we were students.

Revo comes from Malay aristocracy in Sri Lanka. His father was Dr M.P Drahaman who was a General Practitioner in Slave Island and an appointed Member of Parliament in the late 1950’s. He is remembered for his tireless work to improve the lives of the Malay Community devoting much of his time to their welfare and well-being. Dr M.P Drahaman provided support for the Indonesian struggle for Merdeka (freedom) for which he was recognised and honoured by the Indonesian Government. Three of his sons followed him into the medical profession. He passed away in 1963 in Mecca while performing Haj.

Revo lived in Cinnamon Gardens with his wife Lareena who is a dental surgeon. The old house has been completely rebuilt. They remain lavish and generous hosts renowned for their Malay feasts. He was an affectionate and attentive father to his son and daughter and is a doting grandfather.

His son Akram has followed in his father’s footsteps to qualify as an ENT Surgeon. Revo’s daughter, Asnita, is a GP and her husband is a Consultant Physician and they live in the UK.

When Revo visited his daughter and son-in-law in the UK they were honoured guests at my home. Those meetings are now precious memories. I have a collection of old Malay music which were popular in Sri Lanka. He loved listening to them after a few glasses of vino. I offered him a CD of the music for him to take back to Sri Lanka.

Revelion Drahaman dedicated more than 50 years to the medical profession. Work was his pleasure and after retirement he continued to serve in the private sector. He is a fine product of that great redbrick institution, Royal College Colombo. By his dignity and decency, he brought honour to his school, the profession and his community. This short biography is a testament to the caring and integrity which was evident in everything he did. Revo lived a remarkable life. He was ever so humble about his success and never regarded himself as someone special. Despite his privileged upbringing, he never lost the common touch. I consider myself so very fortunate to have met him in my journey through life.

Revo is a gem in a world of pebbles. He has gone before us in the journey we all must take.

“Inna Lillahi Va Inna Ilaihi Rajioon”  (From Him do we come and unto Him do we return)

13 comments:

  1. Thank you Nihal for notifying us of his loss - the 60th in our batch. This year alone, we have lost 7 batchmates.
    He was a fellow Royalist but senior to me.I knew him as batch mate but never really got to know him well. Clearly, it was my loss! He appears to be have been a remarkable doctor and one who was kind and loyal to his friends.

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    1. Mahen,
      Thank you for publishing the tribute promptly. I cannot speak highly enough of Revo and feel the loss deeply. I have sent my condolences to his close family. His was a life well lived.

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  2. Thank you Nihal for your contribution, full of anecdotes regarding Revo. I visited his residence this morning to pay my last respects. I met his wife, son Akram and his younger brother ,who is also a doctor. I used to meet Akram who is also an ENT surgeon, very often on the train, whilst travelling to Anuradhapura, when I was teaching the Rajarata students. His younger brother is a former student of mine who graduated in 1972. He was married to Niranjala de Silva, who was in our senior batch. Niranjala's elder brother Ajith was a radiologist in Australia. Ajith was in the main quarters when I was living there during my internship. Their uncle was Oliver Medonza. Revo's elder brother was a paediatrician, very much senior to us. Revo's daughter -in -law is a clinical psychologist.

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    1. Sanath
      Thank you for your recollections. I have been in contact with Akram about Revo. A sad loss of a dear and genuine friend. Revo wanted to live and work in SL and so he did.

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  3. Nihal, It is sad to hear that yet another batch mate has left us. Thank you for this lovely, detailed tribute. I knew Revo fairly well, and we were friends while in medical college, because we sometimes ended up in the same clinical groups together, our last names being alphabetically close (D-F). But following the "great dispersal of 1967" I lost track of him, each following our own divergent life's path. I was delighted when at one of our reunions I ended up sitting next to Revo's wife, Lareena, in the bus with Revo sitting across the aisle. We had a wonderful conversation catching up with each other, and I found Lareena to be a lovely person. It appears that Revo lived a very fulfilling, happy life, and contributed greatly to the welfare of his patients. May he Rest in Peace.
    My heartfelt condolences to Lareena and the rest of his family.

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    1. Very true Srianee our friends are departing in regular succession. This is sadly the pattern for the future. “In the midst of life we are in death”. But perhaps the way forward is to celebrate the lives of those who leave us and that is exactly what I have done with my tribute to Revo.
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      Hamburg seems a lovely place to spend Christmas. I love the carol "O Tannenbaum, O Tannenbaum, risplendi nella notte". The melody is similar to the German National Anthem. Enjoy your time with the family.

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  4. As we enter life's journey, only one thing is absolutely certain, and that is that the journey will end in death. As I say, life has a 100% mortality. Rejoice while you can and accept your mortality; enjoy the company of those you meet on the journey and treasure the memories you have of those who left the path before you. The need for companionship and desire to help others is innate and very necessary for happiness. Do what you need to do now and try not to procrastinate if possible, respect those who gain solace by believing in an afterlife, or an ever loving powerful Deity. None of us function totally or logically. All of us find ways of coping as best as we can with the knowledge that life was always meant to end in death; nothing unsusal or special about that. I think that is enough philosophy

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    1. Thank you my philosophical friend, your advice is important. I try not to procrastinate, especially about getting in touch with friends and relatives. With modern technology, it is pretty easy to send a text and say "Hi, I'm thinking of you."
      In the past, at Christmastime, I had a ritual of sitting down with a large number of Christmas cards and sending them to many people. Often I had Christmas carols playing in the background. Now, I am resorting to sending emails and texts, and I admit, this feels rather half hearted. But at least, I am getting in touch with people.

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    2. You are getting there Srianee! Just imagine life without death, it is just not possible!

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  5. SHANTI NALLIAH
    This is unbelievable Speedy. I am very sad to hear this news. My condolences to his family

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  6. From Chira
    Let me thank Nihal for the excellent tribute to Drahaman.
    One by one our batchmates are departing from this world. It is indeed very sad.
    May he rest in peace.My condolences to his family.
    Chira

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    1. Hello Chira
      Glad you like my celebration of the life of a fine batchmate and a really good and kind person.

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