Sunday, October 29, 2017

Wedding anniversaries

Wedding anniversaries
Mahendra “Speedy” Gonsalkorale
Zita and Joe just celebrated their Golden Wedding Anniversary on the 23rd of October

We are all in our seventies now and those of us who are happily married are clocking up the years of being married with the inexorable passage of time. I am sure many have reached significant milestones such as the 25th (Silver), the Pearl (30th), the Ruby (40th). I am also sure there are growing numbers  now in the Golden category of 50 years, and who knows, even an Emerald (55th) amongst us. I doubt whether we have a Diamond (60th) yet!

My good friend and colleague Zita SubasinghePerera just celebrated 50 years of marriage to that wonderful man Joe with their two children Rohan and Nisha.  It has been my pleasure to have them as close friends. I have met Nisha and Rohan who are lovely “kids” and a credit to their parents. Zita is a most generous and kind person and has a probing and intellectual mind and thinks deeply about human nature and relationships. It is always a pleasure to discuss challenging topics with her and get her critical views on them. And Joe… well he is Mr Gentle and Charming personified!
I am sure all our fellow batch mates will join me in wishing Zita and Joe many more years of blissful married life.

I have interviewed Zita in my virtual interview series and please use this web address if you would like to read it. http://colombomedgrads1962.blogspot.co.uk/2017/05/the-speedy-virtual-interview-series.html#comment-form


I hope readers from our Batch will inform us of others who have reached this milestone.

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

More Goodbyes

Harsha Boralessa

20 Oct (4 days ago)
to me
Dear Lucky

Harshi and I were shocked to hear of Surens sudden passing away. Although I did not know him that well in medical college, Suren and Sweeney became very close family friends of ours over the years in UK. 

We met them regularly every 2-3 months at Sri Lankan Balls and we all enjoyed Ballroom and Latin dancing very much. Last Saturday,14th October, Suren and Sweeney were to be our guests at the Visakha Ball. Suren had bought a dress for Sweeney to wear for this occasion. Sweeney told Suren, "I have plenty of clothes, why are you buying dresses for me. I am not Princess Diana." Suren promptly replied, "But you are my Princess." They were a very close and loving couple.

We have been to see Sweeney twice this week and spent time with her. Obviously she is devastated. Suren was a very warm and sincere person and had many loyal friends who are visiting and supporting Sweeney. I will be attending the funeral. It is all very, very sad.

I wish to share these thoughts with you.

Regards

Bora

Charles Kodikara

My Dear Suren,

Let me say good bye to you. I regret that I can't attend you funeral. I live in Scotland (up north). Pushpa had been ill and had been in hospital twice during the last two weeks. You were with us from the age of 11 in the middle and upper school at Ananda. You have had your misfortunes losing your sister (early in life) and your Mother recently. Suren you had been a true decent fellow, sad to see you go. Hope that we will meet in a future life. Let me give my condolences to your wife and Son.

May your travel in Samsara be short.

May the Triple Gem Bless You All,


Chas Herbert Kodikara (Kodda).

Goodbye Suren!

Dear All Mates,

It’s now the Eleventh Hour before our dear Childhood Mate SUREN
Is laid to rest. Leaving most emotions aside, it is time for us to reflect
Upon our life span of four SCORES, and philosophically concur that,
When Born, one must Age and Decay, must Disease and One Must Die !
Suren went through all of these, and inevitably so will we!!

In the Best of Buddhist Tradition, we transfer Merits to our departed
Beloved One, and wish that SUREN has gained a FORTUNATE EXISTENCE
In the Unfathomable SANSARIC JOURNEY, and be Blessed with All the
Graces and Adornments of the Supreme Triple Gem !!!

Heart-felt Condolences to Sweeni, son Rasi and the IYER FAMILY,

SADHU !  SADHU !!   SADHU!!!

RANJITH HETTIARACHI,
MELBOURNE.

SUREN OBITUARY

The passing of Suren was a great shock to me as he was a v close friend.
I knew him & his family for more than 50 years.
His family knew my family too.
I first met him at the age of around 10 years .
I joined Ananda in the 4th standard & Suren joined later
At school we were good friends & we both went through the trials & tribulations of school life together.
We finally entered the faculty of medicine and both Suren and I ended up in Colombo.
After internship we met each other again in the UK When we both worked for the NHS
at St helier Hospital, Carshalton Surrey, for about 5yrs. I did Orthopedics while Suren & my wife Sirima
were in the A & E. Sweeni, Suren;s wife was doing nursing.
At St Helier we moved closely with each other

Suren was a v good Budhist & supporter of all Ananda College OBA activities.
Now both of us in retirement we moved closely meeting at personal social occasions &
at OBA & OGA Dinners & dances ,Suren & Sweeni were wonderful ballroom dancers.
At all the social occasions Suren will be missed.Their wonderful dancing will be missed.
May He Attain Nibhana
Sirima & I offer our deepest condolences to Sweeni & Rasika & family.

Sunil Abeysuriya

Blog Administrator's note: This is an unedited version. Any belated appreciations will be published.

Saturday, October 21, 2017

Consciousness, "I", a "person". Mahendra Gonsalkorale

Consciousness, "I", a "person". Mahendra Gonsalkorale


I do believe that we cannot be ourselves with our store of memories, attitudes, beliefs, fears, apprehensions, exhilarations, sadness, happiness, relationships, puzzlement, amazement, confusion, wonderment, and a whole host of other things without our physical Brain. Not having a properly functioning physical brain is like having a computer without its processor and memory. I, therefore, believe that the physical brain is a sine qua non for consciousness and self-awareness. 

I base this on our knowledge of how we change when parts of our brain are damaged by injury or disease. The range of effects seen are enormous and dependent on which areas are affected. It can be just a loss of memory of varying degrees to a total change of personality so that the person "now" is totally different from the person "then". But both are conscious in the sense that they are alive and aware with all the bodily functions, responds to questions and exhibit behaviours. They sleep, they wake up, they laugh, they cry, they show happiness and sadness but they could be totally different although the physical likeness is preserved. We, therefore, have a body in which there appears to be now a virtually totally different person. We see this in frontal, fronto-temporal and hippocampal damage for example. Or take a disease like Alzheimer's which can be so devastating in change of personality. To me, this means that our brains when functioning as a whole organ give us a sense of being a "person" and the notion or person is conditioned by what is stored in our brains and what is produced in the brain by the various neuronal circuits interacting with each other. In this case, the sum is greater than the addition of individual parts. A symphony is a collection of music on different instruments but the effect it produces is above and beyond its parts. There is absolutely no evidence that the person who "was" before the cerebral insult is lurking somewhere within him trapped in a physical form beyond his control. If this is the case, this sad person has a "hidden original me" with a "new me" that arose within the same body after the damage. I don't think that is possible. 

But slightly digressing, our concept of being a person is so dependent on what goes on in our brains at any one time that even a "person" can be different "persons" at different times depending on situations, time etc. In a way, there is no "person" as such but a succession of experiences of being a person. We think we are the same because the change is gradual and occurs within a physical body we can see and feel. but we need to only take our minds back a few years and find that in many ways, we are now different, and in some cases, massively so.

So to sum it up, our functioning brain continuously informs us that there is an "I" (consciousness, awareness) and this I believe functions even when we are asleep but as sleep shuts us off from experiencing impulses from our "outer senses" (such as vision, touch, smell, hearing), we are not aware or "conscious" as in the wakeful state but we are there, and our brains are working producing all sorts of activity which can even result in playback of a "video" constructed from true past life experiences and totally "computer generated" images of things which never really happened and we call this dreaming.

"I" arises from brain activity giving us a self-awareness. No brain - no self-awareness -no consciousness!

Just to complicate matters, if we blow up any living being through a zoom with massive capability, you will just see at first a collection of cells and then as you zoom further you will see  molecules -->  atoms --> fundamental particles --> wave forms and within all this, as much as 90% is empty space!

I hope my article will stimulate an useful and interesting discussion. I have purposely kept Religion away from it although this may have resulted in an incomplete view.

Speedy

BA's note: (The writer - Dr. Mahendra Gonsalkorale is a Neurologist cum Geriatrician)

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Letter to my friend Suren.

Randy Santiago

Attachments17:59 (2 hours ago)
to me,
Reflections

Letter to my friend Suren.

The word of your death, reached us few days ago, but I believe and feel you have not left us at all.

Some time ago, while enjoying single malt in your beautiful home, you told me dying is a biological fact and also to many it is also a religious symbol.

We talked about many things and then got refocused into how we end our journey of Sansara. Suren, you said again dying is some thing we all do. But is also something we all observe others do at a distance and reminded me dying can be peaceful and we know you left us peacefully.

I knew Suren for many years from my Childhood and classmates (JSC) when I joined Ananda College. He was very popular student, friendly and studious. Suren was a regular member of the Cheering squad, when Ananda played Inter-collegiate cricket matches against leading schools. While playful, he was studious and a brilliant student and entered the Medical College.

The only period I lost contact with Suren was when he was a medical student, but got reconnected to him when he was young doctor doing his obligatory internship.  It was during this period that Suren introduced me to Swini, his bride to be.

The many visits to his parent’s residences in Kurupu and McCarthy Road’s were memorable. Mrs. Iyer, Suren’s loving mother welcomed us to their beautiful homes.

 In the year 1971, I reconnected with Suren and Swini, when I met them in Wallington, Surrey, UK, thanks to my sister Rani and a good friend Lakhi , during my short visits to England from Denmark.
Since then I maintained regular contacts with Suren. Suren was a caring and a successful Doctor. He was generous and funded AOA-UK and also funded Sri Lankan Buddhist temples and many other worthy causes in Sri Lanka.

 Suren, also you were a very good ballroom dancer. I have attached a picture to celebrate your fondness for dancing. In this picture you were dancing with our daughter Kirsten and this picture was taken 27 plus years ago.

 Suren, was always generous and whenever I had a medical question and I needed a consultation, Suren was one telephone call away. Suren passing away came as a jolt to his friends and family. Suren I will be with you at your home and your family, during the farewell ceremonies on Oct 24 and 25th.

You have the highest point in your Sansaric Journey and may you attain the supreme and ultimate bliss of Nirvana.

Dying is a subject of in great novels and some poems.

Emily Dickinson wrote:

Because I could not stop for death-
He kindly stopped for me-
The carriage held but just ourselves-
And Immortality.


Ranjit Santiago.

USA. (Oct. 18, 2017.)