REMEMBERANCE DAY 2025.May 30th
(1) Mahendra Gonsalkorale.
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The time has come again, all too quickly, to pause, reflect on our mortality, and think of our lost colleagues. Since Remembrance Day 2024, we have lost five more of our beloved colleagues. That makes a total of 61 (62 after Nada)out of a total of 166. (There were 166 in the batch, including 11 from Peradeniya). There were 107 gentlemen and 59 ladies (including 4 from Peradeniya).
Those who departed since the last RD are:-
57. Gwendoline (Perera) Herath 28.06.2024
58. Primrose (Jayasinghe) Wijeyewardhena 11.08.2024
59. Rita M G Silva (Alwis) Nov 2024
60. Lakshman Abeyagunawardene. 14.12.2024
61. Revelion (Revo) Drahaman 20.12.2024.
62. Ravi Nadaraja
Please add comments on any of your colleagues for whom you wish to record your appreciation.
"Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have"
“Memories don’t leave like people do; they always stay with you”
"The most important discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart." - Elisabeth Foley.
"Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." — Muhammad Ali
“Death ends a life, not a relationship; All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here,” Marie Schwatz.
May they Rest in Peace
2. A.R.K. (Russel) Paul
3. Dawne de Silva Paul
4. Bernard Randeniya
5. Niriella Chandrasiri
6. V. Ganeson
7. L.G.D.K. (Irwin) Herath
8. V.Kunasingham
9. B.L. Perera
10. B. Somasunderam
11. N.C.D.M. Gunasekara
12. K.Sunderampillai
13. Tudor Wickramarachchi
14. K.N. (Kiththa) Wimalaratne
15. Anna Ponnambalam Sathiagnanan
16. A. Satchitananda
17. N. Sivakumar
18. T.A. Dayaratne
19. Sidath Jayanetti
20. N. Balakumar
21. Kamali Nimalasuriya de Silva 14.4.2013
22. K. Sri Kantha – 15.9.13
23. P. Lucien Perera – 14.6.14
24. Priya (Gunaratna) de Silva – 8.10.14
25. Arul (Sivaguru) Balasubramaniam – 15.10.14
26. W. Punsiri Fernando – 15.11.14
27. W. Rajasooriyar – 6.1.15
28. M.P.C. Jaimon – 26.3.15
29. S. Vedavanam – 1.7.15
30. Farouk Mahmoud – 27.11.16
31. Janaka (JG) Wijetunga – 13.03.17
32. Manohari Navaratnarajah Shanmuganathan – 22.03.17
33. D. B. Mahendra Collure – 31.05.17
34. Suren Iyer – 13.10.17
35. Sardha Jayatilake Wijeratne (Passed away 3 years ago)
36. S. Sarvananda – 26.05.18
37. Sue Ratnavel Gunsegaram - 16.7.2018
38. Boyd Tilak (Chula) Batuwitage - 10.12.2018
39. Ranjit Kuruppu 9.4. 2019
40. C.D. (Desmond) Gunatilake 2.6.2019
41. Razaque Ahamat 7.7.2109
42. H.N.Wickremasinghe 8.11.2019
43. Kamini (Goonewardena) Ferdinando 31.1.2021
44. Lucky Weerasooriya jan 2022
45. Zita Perera Subasinghe 5.10.2022
46. V.P.H Rajapakse 15.10.2022
47. Mangalam Sabaratnam Krishnadasan 22.12.2022
48. Cecil Saverimuttu 26.1.2023
49. J. C. Fernando 18.04.2023
50. Navam Chinniah 03.082023
51. Philomena P Thiraviam 6.9.2023
52 Subrananiam Indrani Anthonypillai oct 2023
53. Asoka wijeyekoon dec 22nd,2023
54. Sriani Basnayake Dissanayake 15.02.2024
55. R Wickremaskeran 23.4.2024
56. Bertram Nanayakkara 24.05.2024
57. Gwendoline (Perera) Herath 28.06.2024
58. Primrose (Jayasinghe) Wijeyewardhena 11.08.2024
59. Rita M G Silva (Alwis) Nov 2024
60. Lakshman Abeyagunawardene. 14.12.2024
61. Revelion (Revo) Drahaman 20.12.2024
We shall forever remember them with fondness and respect.
Please add comments on any of your colleagues for whom you wish to record your appreciation or email me with a contribution which I can add to this post as I have done with ND's article so that we will have a page which will grow progressively.
(2) Respecting our Noble tradition of Remembrance. sent on 12th May 2025
by Nihal
D Amerasekera
The 30th of May has become a special date in our calendar,
known as “Remembrance Day”. This day is dedicated to remembering our friends
who joined the Faculty of Medicine, Colombo in 1962 and have now passed away.
It’s a time to reflect on the wonderful time we shared together and pay our
respects. We can celebrate their lives and be grateful for the time we had.
I am overwhelmed by nostalgia as I reminisce those days in
the Faculty. I remember with a sense of
loss a kinder gentler world which disappeared forever as I left medical school.
The most painful of all is the disappearance from my life the people who meant
so much to me, my friends. I stepped on the treadmill to carve myself a career
and raise a family. Now having reached the end of my working life I still yearn
for those days even though more than fifty years have passed me by. We were so
much a part of the Faculty and the GHC, the voices and laughter of those
departed must still echo in the ether of the hallowed grounds.
The gnawing pain of losing friends never truly eases with
time. Friendships are one of life’s rich gifts, especially those made and
strengthened in youth. They are special and enduring, leaving us with great
sadness but also with fond and unique memories.
At this time, we think of the spouses and families of those
who have passed away. They have faced the difficult and painful task of coming
to terms with living without their loved ones. We admire and commend their
courage and efforts to maintain contact and join our gatherings and reunions.
They are an integral part of our community and will always be welcome.
On this special day, we take this opportunity to remember
our teachers in the Faculty and our clinical tutors in the GHC. They generously
imparted their knowledge, teaching us the difficult craft of diagnosis,
treatment, and caring. We were immensely fortunate to have Prof O.E.R
Abhayaratne as the Dean of the Faculty of Medicine. He was an outstanding
teacher, an altruistic mentor, and a father figure to us all.
The five years of hard toil and trauma brought us closer.
Our batch of 159 students demonstrated remarkable unity and loyalty to each
other. The pranks and foibles, especially the risqué jokes, allusions, and
double entendres, come to mind easily. The block concerts, Colours Nights, the
many evening parties in the Men’s Common Room, and the final year trip are
memories we treasure. What we remember now are the good times.
Do make every attempt to keep in touch. There is no better
place than our own hangout in cyberspace – we call the Blog. This is the forum
that unites us. Send your Poems, Paintings and Prose to Mahendra Gonsalkorala to be
published. Comments help to encourage the contributors and keep the Blog alive.
Despite life’s vain tumults, none of us is here forever. Our time will come, and now we are in the grip of events, much of which is beyond our control. Meanwhile, we must enjoy life, family, and friends. Even now, when I smell formalin or ether, I am transported back in time and space to the Faculty at Kynsey Road. Overwhelmed by nostalgia, I still feel a flicker of nerves. Then, a video plays in my mind of friends and life long ago. Ah! Where have those years gone?
More of my memories of departed colleagues (by ND)
H.N.Wickramasinghe
I was surprised and delighted to see him in the Paediatric ward in Kurunegala to start his internship in June 1967. For the following 6 months, we were to save lives together. I couldn’t have asked for a better colleague. It was such a pleasure to work with HN as he was conscientious, caring and a kind doctor. I remember it so well on our first payday when we did a long walk to the Kurunegala Rest House after work and enjoyed several pints of beer. This became a regular ritual until he left Kurunegala. He was great company at any time, but more so after the amber nectar. We became closer during the internship. He never indulged in hurtful gossip, recrimination or sniping and had a good word for everyone. His commitment, honesty and dignity touched all those with whom he worked. With HN’s gregarious and affable personality, he had no interest in grumbling and complaining about work or people. He never stood for any nonsense and spoke his mind. This enhanced the respect and his popularity as a person.
Sivakumar Vedavanam
In the Blood Bank, we became closer. I recall the many evenings we drifted towards the Health Department Sports Club to put the world to right and enjoy the amber nectar that flowed so freely. That was a time when the Medical Officer in the Blood Bank had to go to all parts of our island to collect blood. On many occasions when he went on these journeys, he asked me to join in for company. We did have a jolly good time. During those trips he showed tremendous kindness to the PHI’s, attendants and labourers who were part of the team. They loved him for his classless friendship and lavish hospitality. Those were indeed memorable years. He will be fondly remembered for the work he did for the National Blood Transfusion Service of Sri Lanka 1970-75.
Razaque Ahamat
Because of our surnames, “A”, we sat together at lectures, weathered the storms of the signatures and revisals and endured the hardships of those clinical appointments. We both lived in Wattala and travelled daily by train from Hunupitiya to Maradana in carriages packed like sardines. During those years, what stands out is his helpful kindness, his great sense of humour and his charming, convivial nature. All through those years in the Faculty he enjoyed life to the full. He joined in the many dances, Colours Night and Block Nights that brightened up our lives. Razaque was often one of the last of the stragglers to leave King George’s Hall at the break of dawn.
He had many stories to tell which he related with a slight lisp which enhanced the narrative. He said, with a murky smile, he descended from the Royal family in Penang. Fact or fiction, we will never know just like the other hilarious stories in his repertoire. Razaque brought happiness to our lives at the Faculty when the atmosphere was stuffy and toxic.
Zita Perera Subasinghe
After the great dispersal from Kynsey Road in 1967, it took a further 48 years to see Zita again. This time, she was with her husband, Joe. They both seemed jolly and lively. Mahendra has kept in touch with Zita, and we all met up at Côte Brasserie off Oxford Street in London. It was 2015, and we had all retired from our professional lives. This was a remarkable bonding and there was so much closeness and intimacy despite the passage of years. We retraced our lives since medical school. I remember the clarity with which Zita related the story of her life, work, and family to this day. What stood out was how happy she was with her life. Zita was delightful company, always spoke kindly about people, and there was never a harsh word.
Priya Gunaratna
In 1967 we met again in Kurunegala doing those arduous tasks of internship. We worked together in the Children's Ward with the Paediatrician Dr Chandra de S Wijesundera (who later married our batchmate Manel Ratnavibhushana). There, I got to know Priya more closely, sharing the on-calls and other onerous tasks of a busy unit. While at work she had the great ability to remain calm and in control. She showed tremendous kindness, courtesy and patience towards the children in her care and also to their worried parents. I recall Priya had great empathy for the poor, simple rural folk of the wanni who sought our help. She remained a reliable, unpretentious and hardworking colleague throughout. The passion, integrity, and professionalism Priya showed during the internship was a beacon for us all. She was indeed a very special person.
Tudor Wickramarachi:
He was rather restless and intense as a medical student. He always gave as good as he got. I also remember his ebullient and exuberant personality and his zest for life. Tudor and I worked as surgical interns and endured the punishing schedule of hospital medicine together. Amidst the brief tantrums, awful puns and risqué humour, Tudor showed great empathy and tremendous kindness to his patients, staff and colleagues. He was a loyal friend but was never inhibited by sensitivity or shyness when it came to expressing his own opinion. Although occasionally boisterous, he was mostly gregarious, genial and generous. I visited him when he was DMO Dambulla. Call it ‘oriental lavishness’, the bottle of amber nectar appeared before I sat down and to this day remains a blissful memory of a well-lubricated evening. When we met again in London he was much subdued and a reformed family man. I nearly fell off the chair when he refused a drink. Tudor became a respected Pathologist in Bristol. He sadly passed away while doing what he loved best – playing golf. A life well lived but taken far too soon age 66.
Asoka Wijeyekoon alias “Lubber”
He was one of my closest pals and one that I miss a great deal. Meeting him even as an octogenarian, the conversation was always current as he was well-informed. He expressed his views and opinions without fear or favour and brought a good deal of lateral thought to any discussion. I sincerely hope one day we will meet again in another realm. Perhaps it is au revoir and not goodbye. I know he will have a lot to say about that, too. When I look back the memories of 50+ years, Lubber was a kind, sociable friend and a unique human being. This is not an attempt to deify him. He too has the same faults we all possess. As in his youth Lubber is extraordinarily frank, fears no one and retained an aura of gravitas from his ‘consultant’ days. He had the remarkable ability to bring to any discussion a huge degree of intelligence derived from lateral thinking. I am ever grateful we were able to meet. It is true we go back to the beginning as we get to the end. It was, and will always remain, one of the great privileges of my life to have known him.
A.Satchithananda
Ever curious, he was cultured as he was intelligent. We played table tennis and carrom in the Faculty Common Room and over cups of tea put the world to right. He later emigrated to the USA. We were both Apple Computer buffs. In those early days they were disastrously unreliable beasts. We tried hard to make sense and keep them working.
Although not a Christian he listened every Christmas to the Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols sung by the Kings College Choir in Cambridge on Christmas eve, broadcast at 3pm GMT which he said was a ritual since his schooldays.
When Satchi was at the height of his fame and success as a Paediatrician in Wisconsin, he walked away from the profession due to ill health. His journey through life was filled with sadness and tragedy, but he always managed to smile and joke with his friends. I remember well his charm and intellect. We met up in an Indian Restaurant in London in the 1990s and enjoyed lunch and exchanged gifts. His present to me was a Gorecki’s 3rd Symphony, a deeply sorrowful piece of work. Understandably, the events of his painful past and his own illness had a devastating effect on his life and personality. Despite this, he maintained his dignity and composure, remaining a loyal friend to the end. He indeed stood above the common herd.
Revelion Drahaman
I first met Revo in 1965 when we were both students at the Faculty of Medicine in Colombo. It was the Swinging Sixties. Memories of amber nectar, tall tales and late nights whizz around my head as I recall those years of long ago. Friendships were made and firmed in the canteen and common room which was the social hub of the Faculty where laughter was endemic. Revo started his training with the first batch of students at Peradeniya and moved to Colombo on a transfer. As our surnames were nearer the beginning of the alphabet, we did most of the clinical work together. Our walks on the long corridors to every corner of the General Hospital in search of patients and knowledge is a memory that has stayed with me. This brought us closer and the friendship lasted a lifetime. By his dignity and decency, he brought honour to his school, the profession and his community. This short biography is a testament to the caring and integrity which was evident in everything he did. Revo lived a remarkable life. He was ever so humble about his success and never regarded himself as someone special. Despite his privileged upbringing, he never lost the common touch. I consider myself so very fortunate to have met him in my journey through life. Revo is a gem in a world of pebbles. He has gone before us in the journey we all must take.
Lakshman Dias Abeygunawardene
Lakshman was a quiet man, yet gregarious, always charming. He was well known for his intense loyalty to his friends. His anecdotes, wonderful sense of humour and that ‘wicked’ grin were an integral part his charm. I remember from long ago his courtesy and kind ways which he has carried through all his life. I am greatly privileged to have met him in my life’s journey.”
J.C Fernando
JC has had a rewarding professional career. We have enjoyed his company, humanity and joie de vivre. Rarely boring or predictable, sometimes outrageous, JC was excellent company. He had tremendous enthusiasm for social events in medical school. Being a fine musician, many of us got to know JC at social functions. We sang and danced at the memorable and raucous evening booze-ups in the Men’s Common Room. My abiding memory at these events is the lithe figure of the ‘Dark Knight’ strumming his guitar, singing in graphic detail the itchy tale of “the dance of the phthirus pubis”. His signature song was “Saima cut wela” a tragic tale of a beginner’s hangover and an effective home remedy. He sang “Suranganee-ta malu genawa”, tempting fate long before they became a pair!! He capped it all with an enduring contribution to the Final year trip making the days brighter and the nights merrier. His was a good life well lived, and he has left fond memories which will always be treasured”.
Bernard Randeniya
Bernard was held in high esteem in the Health Service as one of its most colourful and successful managers, and as a man who led from the front and inspired all those who worked with him. His great professionalism was accompanied by an infectious enthusiasm for life and mischievous sense of humour. He used his charm and skills of persuasion to obtain expensive equipment for the Cancer Institute Maharagama to benefit the numerous patients who came for treatment. Despite his achievements he was also a modest man, protective of his privacy, embarrassed by praise and with a deep aversion for publicity.
In early 1999 when we met up in Colombo, he gave me the sad news of his illness which proved terminal. I kept in touch with him and admire the courage which he showed until the very end. He passed away with great dignity in November 1999 at the age of 58 years. Bernard was a devout Catholic . His faith gave him great comfort during his final illness.
His cheeky grin and infectious laugh are precious memories for us all. Bernard was my best friend and I will miss him. He was far too young to leave us.
S.R De Silva
Sunil came from the upper echelons of society with a strong academic background but was resolutely down to earth. This showed even in the way he dressed. He had the remarkable ability to move with equal ease with the bourgeoisie and the proletariat, a trait inherited from his illustrious uncle Colvin R de Silva. He made many friends in the faculty and by his very nature had no enemies. Sunil was soft-spoken, self-effacing and sober. His lifestyle was modest and unpretentious. He was exceptionally kind to everyone and treated all with courtesy and respect. Sunil never entertained any of that frivolous gossip which was rampant in the university. We were all just out of our teenage years and showed our emotions easily, but not Sunil. I never saw those moments of sentimentality in him. Perhaps he masked them skilfully with his distinctive poker face.
He may have a chuckle reading this narrative, wagging his finger at me.
Some go silently into the night
walk through the park of our humanity
with breath that parts no air -
steps that bend no grass -
disturbing nothing as they pass.
(3) Poems suited for the theme sent by Srianee Dias
Heinrich Heine:- “Death is the cool night”
Life is the sultry day.
It is already growing dark; I am drowsy;
The day has made me weary.
In it the young nightingale is singing.
It is singing of nothing but love;
I hear it even in my dreams.
Friedrich Rückert
“At Forty”. (Could be revised to“At Eighty!”)
(4) By Suriyakanthie Amarasekera- 17.05.2025
(5) Kumar Gunawardane
A VIGNETTE ON FRIENDSHIP
“The comfort
of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one” -Seneca.
The image of ND
on his armchair, lingering lovingly on the images of our departed colleagues,
struck a chord deep in my heart. I followed suit, deliberately dwelling on some,
rekindling memories of those joyous days of our youth.
As the poet
memorably said
“Bliss it
was that dawn to be alive,
But to be
young was very heaven”
- William
Wordsworth -
Our hearts were
full of romance, the limbs supple and the gait swift, but we were also
vulnerable, easily hurt and slow to recover. Many of us did bounce back,
however, and reach great heights, bringing acclaim to our entire group.
ND’s image also
reminded me of Buddha’s advice to Ananda, his cousin and attendant, while
residing in the Sakya village of Nagardaka. Ananda, having paid homage to the
Blessed One, said, “Venerable Sir, good friendship, good companionship and good
comradeship are half of the holy life”.
“Not so Ananda
, Not so Ananda , good friendship, good companionship and good comradeship is
the entire holy life. When a bhikku has a good friend, a good companion, a good
comrade, it is to be expected that he will develop and cultivate the Noble
Eightfold Path”.
I affectionately remembered too, our living colleagues and friends, who continue to enliven our lives. I wish them and all their families good health, happiness and peace to the end of their days.
(6) Zita Perera Subasinghe. by Mahendra "Speedy" Gonsalkorale. 20.5.2025
I could have written about so many of our lost colleagues, but I chose to write about Zita on this occasion, as she was a very special person. She had many talents, and she valued friendship so much. A significant reason for the blog to continue to this day was Zita’s enthusiasm for it. The Blog was the vehicle through which I re-established contact with Zita and her lovely family. I have visited them on several occasions, and every time I went, I was greeted with love and affection, not just by Zita and Joe but also by Nisha and Rohan. I felt completely at home and relaxed.
She is without doubt a very special person, a person with whom I have had deep discussions on the nature of life, faith and belief. These are subjects you have to tread carefully with some people, as it can cause misunderstandings, but with Zita, we were totally honest with each other, although we did not always agree. But this is the essence of laudable human nature, to question and disagree while always respecting another view, as surely, we mortals cannot claim to know everything.
Zita was a talented piano player, and her poems were beautifully written. Our blog is filled with many thoughtful and entertaining posts by her.
It was my good fortune and great privilege to have been her friend; her memory will always remain with me.
(7) By Harsha Boralessa
I am posting some fond memories of some of our dear batchmates who are no longer with us.
Thilak Dayaratna: a close and loyal friend, gifted with a beautiful singing voice and immense artistic talent. He was also a keen dancer although he had the tendency to go off beat and tread on his partner’s toes. He got away with it by telling his dancing partners that he was executing the latest moves taught at the Viville de Kauwe School of Dancing. I spent many a Saturday night in his company drinking Lion Lager at the Savoy Hotel, Wellawathe.
Johnny Chandrasiri – very studious and kept meticulous lecture notes. In the last three months of our final year at Medical School Kumar and I invited him to be our unofficial room guest at the Blom. He was a great asset and all of us benefitted immensely from studying together.
He loved COD unaccompanied by ketchup, chips and mushy peas.
Suren Iyer: while I barely knew him as a medical student, we became close friends (a good aiyah) after we emigrated to the UK. He was a caring and competent GP who was much loved by colleagues and patients alike. A very loyal and generous member of the Old Anandians Association in the UK.
Suren and his lovely wife Sweeney were enthusiastic Latin and Ballroom Dancers. I can still picture them doing the rhumba to their favourite Sinhala song Kandula Ithin Samaweyan.
Sue Ratnavel: As with Suren, I barely knew Sue at medical school but got to know her very well in later life as she was a very close friend of my wife Harshi. At medical school Sue was very reserved but much admired. When I got to know her, I found her to be simple and down-to-earth even though she hailed from an affluent family. I particularly enjoyed listening to her speaking fluent Sinhala.
According to my wife, Sue used to sing beautifully. As a medical student in Kandy, Sue played a lead part in the after-dinner sing-alongs in their Hall of Residence. Jail House Rock and and Sloop John B were among two of her favourite songs.
Navan Chinniah was part of our Sig group which consisted of Siri Cassim, Johnny, Lady Chellapa and Chitta. He related funny stories, had a good sense of humour and was always smartly dressed. Following his first class at the third MBBS, he threw a party for 50 of his batchmates at a local Chinese restaurant. We had a sumptuous meal and a great time.
Dear Mahendra. many thanks for maintaining this list. Sad though it is, it truly reminds us of the dear friends we have had and lost and the great times we shared.
ReplyDeleteMay their souls rest in peace
the above was sent bt me. didn't mean to be anonymous!!
Deletepramilla
The photos bring them back to life. Thank you. I just cannot believe they are all gone to that land far away. It is just like yesterday when we entered the BLOCK together and survived the endless signatures and revisals.
ReplyDeleteHi Nihal,Thank you for sharing your memories of some of our dear departed batch mates. Of the ones you mentioned, Priya, ,Zita, J C, "Claude"Bernard, Revo , Lucky A, Vedavanam, and Razaqe and HN, were all my close friends with whom I kept in touch iver the years. Miss them all so much. Looking forward to the day when we will.meet again , beyond the Sunset.
DeleteSuri
Hi Mahendra can’t believe 61 of our dear friends who were like our family have left us. Very very sad. May they rest in peace. Shanthy
ReplyDeleteThank you Mahen - Remembered with sadness .
ReplyDelete“ To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die “- Thomas Campbell
Mahendra
ReplyDeleteI am thankful to late Lucky for initiating our Blog and to you for maintaining it.
We wouldn't have had this Remembrance day if not for our Blog.
It is so sad to recollect the happy memories we have had with our departed friends. This is life, we have to face this sadness with courage.
Chira
Mahendra, many thanks for your efforts in trying to remember each of them.
ReplyDeleteI kept looking at each of the photos for several minutes concentrating on the person. I was just amazed at the many memories that flooded in. Soon I was so overwhelmed with emotion, my eyes simply welled up. We dont do this often and it is a good way to remember our friends on this special month. Although we were together just for 5 years in the Faculty they were our most impressionable years. We indeed have known them for almost all our lives. I would go along with what Rohini Ana has written “ To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die “- How very true.
ReplyDeleteSrianee, Thanks for the thoughtful poems which I thought were keeping in within the theme. I have posted them in the main body rather than as a comment.
ReplyDeleteHi Mahen, I am glad that you agree that the poems I found blend with our theme of 'Remembrance.' I hope our friends will find some comfort in reflecting on those words.
ReplyDeleteSrianee, Thank you for the lovely poems. Those words keep resonating in my head as I see the photos of the friends who are now no more with us. I love the Christian concept that we will meet again one day.
DeleteI like both poems. Life is a series of events (changes), every new one influencedby the previous one witihin the illusion of time. Mathematics claims to explain it all but spiritualists think there is another dimension. We climb the mountain, yes, it is a mountain and not a flat valley and all of us without exception will reach the valley which we cannot fathom till we get there- or is there really a valley, another side?
DeleteNihal, a wonderful summary of batch mates close to you. You have made them come to life with well chosen memories and descriptions. To capture the essence of a perosn's life time in a few sentences is not easy, but you have managed it with your gift of recall and very well chosen prose. Well done my friend.
ReplyDeleteMahen
DeleteThank you. Their memory is never far away.
I remember with thanks Zita's contributions for Remembrance Day those lovely poignant rhyming poetry written with such panache and style.
Bernard Randeniya came to the Colours night Dance with his girl friend, Rangani, escorted by her parents. They always brought with them a huge flask of clear soup. This was generously doled out to Bernard's friends who were far too shy to refuse.
I do not wish to go through my life all over again, but would love to visit certain events and locations briefly and meet my friends who enriched my life no end.
Suri. a great contribution. I loved your starting poem!
ReplyDeleteThank you Speedy. You are really amazing .We are eternally indebted to you for the tremendous effort you make to keep the Blog alive .
ReplyDeleteI can't remember who got the idea of maintaining a Remembrance Day,
( whether it's you or Lucky) but it's so heartwarming
I could have written so much about our 61 departed batchmates of whom I had close and meaningful relationships with almost 40.
But I restricted my comments to the few who left us since 3Oth May 2024
to avoid repetition , as I have been contributing since the very inception of the idea.
Even so , it's nice to read what others have to say
Thank you once again .Suri
Thank you Bunter for the two poems you've shared..They are so meaningful.
ReplyDeleteYou've talked of Sue in your comments. I too was very friendly with her. I remember what a breathtakingly beautiful bride she made when she got married to Jendran at St Paul's Milagiriya. I remember singing in the SCM Choir at the wedding . I was so happy to reconnect with her at one of our reunions. He unexpected demise following an angiogram was such a shock.
Suri
Hello Suri
ReplyDeleteMany thanks for your lovely poignant poem for our remembrance. It says what we all wish to say of friendships and friends and our loss. How time has flown since our time together. It is so wonderful to think we will all meet again someday.
I have fond memories of our time at Kings College in Denmark Hill and the lunches together. Dr MVP Peries' daughter was a registrar in Dermatology. Just wonder how life panned out for her.
Remembrance Days are huge events in the UK to commemorate the Worlds War veterans. I got the idea from this and suggested to Lucky Abey that we should have a Remembrance Day for our dear departed. Lucky did take this forward to make it happen and it is he who deserves the honour and the glory.
Best wishes, ND
Hi ND
DeleteI never knew that "Remembrance Day" was your idea. My heartfelt thanks to you for your
Sorry It got published before I could complete the message. .and a big thank you to Lucky for acting on it and Speedy for carrying on the baton
DeleteI have no idea what happened to Sandra Lost touch completely.
Suri
Hello Suri
DeleteThanks for that. I remember Sandra well as a Registrar in Dermatology. I have a vague recollection that she was appointed consultant in Coventry. She too may have retired by now.
Sandra is in the UK married to an Englishman. She is a Mrs Sandra Charles- Holmes and lives I think in Coventry
DeleteKumar, it is really nice to see you again after a lapse. Thank you for your poetic and well written contribution which as always, are appreciated by all of us. Your quote from Seneca is so true.“The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one” -Seneca.
ReplyDeleteHello Kumar
ReplyDeleteThank you for your elegant prose as always written from the heart. My beloved armchair does overtime as I recline more often now. The contraption is not as authentic as what my grandad used as his “harnsiputuwa” , the old ebony recliner, but does the job perfectly.
The quintessential sign of summer in England is the sound of leather on willow. I spend more hours watching cricket at Lords now than ever before. As the game progresses slowly, I get much time to contemplate and recall our happy times in the past.
I miss my faculty friends dearly and I agree with you fully that we must remember our friends who are still with us. We must remain connected and in touch whenever possible. I do send them my very best wishes.
Suri and Kumar, thank you for your heartfelt contributions of poetry and prose. Friendship is precious and should not be taken for granted. One has to make an effort keep up with the connections, and thanks to WhatsApp and this blog, it is much easier than before to do so. Friendship is like a garden that needs to be watered regularly. Without water it will wither and die.
ReplyDeleteSuri, thank you for filling us in with your anecdotes of the friends who passed away more recently. Because I have been living away from Sri Lanka for so long, I wasn't really in touch with most of them except for Lucky, whom I saw regularly on my visits to Sri Lanka. If not for his initiative and efforts we wouldn't be communicating this way.
Mahen, once again thanks for your efforts in keeping things going. ND, I know you also play a big role as cheerleader and advisor. Thank you!
Hi Kumar, thank you for your Vignettes of friendship. Beautifully expressed. I always think of you as a classic example of"still waters" You certainly run deep. I love the quote re Lord Buddha. It reminds me of one of my favourite hymns " What a Friend we have in Jesus"
DeleteI truly treasure your friendship perhaps because we have much in common. not the least our Thomian connections and the fact we both lived in Dehiwela, often travelling together on our way home from College. Take care.
That's me Suri
DeleteI have added a short note on my unique and wonderful friend Zita, whom I miss so much
ReplyDeleteHi Speedy
DeleteI do agree with your comments about my darling Zita , who I consider as my sister from another mother. She was indeed God's special creation. I'm so blessed that from the very first day we met in the Block we "clicked". I have so many precious memories of her that I have shared on this forum, some sad, some joyous... Holding her when she was sobbing at her precious father's grave side, comforting her when her daughters marriage broke up, trying to be of support when she was diagnosed as having cancer, being the God mother of my son and being with us at his christening in UK, being the attesting witness at his wedding...I could go on.
I was so privileged to be the Anaesthetist for her at J pura Hospital. I 'm so grateful that I could message her daily during the last days of her illness. Looking forward to the blessed day when we can meet again.. Beyond the Sunset
Suri
Mahen,
ReplyDeleteI just read your tribute to Zita. Indeed, she was an integral part of the blog, and kept us engaged and entertained with her enchanting poetry and musical compositions. I stayed in touch with her mostly on email, especially when she was battling her illness. I think the last time I saw her in person was at the 1992 reunion. It is a privilege to have friends with whom one can have discussions about any topic. A true friend is someone who respects one's opinions and beliefs even when they disagree. Mahen, I am glad that you had that level of friendship with Zita. It is a rare blessing.
Dear Mahen and Nihal
ReplyDeleteThank you for initiating Remembrance Day on our Blog. It has enabled me to relive some of the happier moments of my medical school days. Sorry for the tardy response - I went on holiday and developed a URTI which took a long time to shake off. I was then wondering if I had missed my turn on the blog but decided that it was better late than never.
I am posting some fond memories of some of our dear batch mates who are no longer with us.
Thilak Dayaratna: a close and loyal friend, gifted with a beautiful singing voice and immense artistic talent. He was also a keen dancer although he had the tendency to go off beat and tread on his partner’s toes. He got away with it by telling his dancing partners that he was executing the latest moves taught at the Viville de Kauwe School of Dancing. I spent many a Saturday night in his company drinking Lion Lager at the Savoy Hotel, Wellawathe.
Johnny Chandrasiri – very studious and kept meticulous lecture notes. In the last three months of our final year at Medical School Kumar and I invited him to be our unofficial room guest at the Blom. He was a great asset and all of us benefitted immensely from studying together.
He loved COD unaccompanied by ketchup, chips and mushy peas.
Suren Iyer: while I barely knew him as a medical student, we became close friends (a good aiyah) after we emigrated to the UK. He was a caring and competent GP who was much loved by colleagues and patients alike. A very loyal and generous member of the Old Anandians Association in the UK.
Suren and his lovely wife Sweeney were enthusiastic Latin and Ballroom Dancers. I can still picture them doing the rhumba to their favourite Sinhala song Kandula Ithin Samaweyan.
Sue: as with Suren, I barely knew Sue at medical school but got to know her very well in later life as she was very close friends with my wife Harshi. At medical school Sue was very reserved but much admired. When I got to know her, I found her to be simple and down-to-earth even though she hailed from an affluent family. I particularly enjoyed listening to her speaking fluent Sinhala.
According to my wife, Sue used to sing beautifully. As a medical student in Kandy, Sue played a lead part in the after-dinner sing-alongs in their Hall of Residence. Jail House Rock and and Sloop John B were among two of her favourite songs.
Navan Chinniah was part of our Sig group which consisted of Siri Cassim, Johnny, Lady Chellapa and Chitta. He related funny stories, had a good sense of humour and was always smartly dressed. Following his first class at the third MBBS, he threw a party for 50 of his batch mates at a local Chinese restaurant. We had a sumptuous meal and a great time.
Hello Bora
DeleteWhere have you been? Even after you have told us!!! We did miss your wit and humour. Your memories did bring back to life our friends who made faculty life so special. We had some charismatic people who brightened up our lives. Hard to believe those mentioned are gone. Meanwhile Take care my friend and keep well. Best wishes. ND
Good to see you Bora. I was wondering why you went into silent mode; now I know! I have added your recollections to the body of this post which is well deserved. I hope you are fully covered again, or as some say, fully recovered.
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